What did you and I contribute today?

Take a moment and think of a time where you were unjustly criticized and let it sink in. Let it permeate your cells and creep into the crevices of your mind.  Did it affect your well-being while your whole day was influenced by it?

Or now take a time when you complimented and praised greatly for who you are. Let it sweep into the corners of your mind and sink into your belly. How does it feel? Does your whole metabolism feel vibrant and energetic? Does it help you feel like you could accomplish anything?

I have always been fascinated by the concept of the Butterfly Effect. It was a term coined in the 1960’s by Edward Lorenz and simply is the idea that small causes can have larger effects. It is the idea that every action sets into motion larger and more magnificent actions that follow. It has been scientifically studied within the realm of quantum physics and mathematics while being proven by very simple systems. The idea had been studied in the 1800’s by Henri  Poincare, who mathematically examined the interactions of orbiting bodies and mass points which eventually lead to the term “theory of chaos.”



So how does this pertain to you and me today? If we get down to the nitty-gritty of how we affect the world today – every word, every action, every gesture sets into motion a string of events that changes the world forever. YES, we are that powerful and are literally creators of the world around us. What about a great mentor in your life? Contemplate how they modeled your world. Or how about that teacher that you really admired and gave you that extra nudge in school? Think about the difference it made in your life up to today forming who you are. With our magnificent brains, you are a part of everyone you have ever come into contact with for the rest of their lives. They store those memories and their consciousness is forever altered with the exchange of your mutual synergy. WE set into motion a great tidal wave of causation in our interactions with other people, the environment/nature , and the animal kingdom around us.  Along with this  great idea comes great responsibility.

One of the great philosophical questions is “What is my purpose here?”.

WE are Creators – WE give meaning to all that surrounds us – WE set into motion energy field that reverberate around the world.

Now look at your typical day and who you interact with as you go along your path. WE have our children and those children around us who need a positive role model in their life that shapes their destiny, or people in passing who may need that little smile or kind word that nudges them along affecting their whole family that evening. All of this by just  saying a kind word or paying them attention in a positive human interaction. The consequence of your action in that person may not be outright noticeable but may be more of a subtle, gentle coaxing of the mind.


What about the Manhattan Project in the 40’s during World War 2 with the invention of the Atomic Bomb ? It’s reverberation continues today and forever has changed the world. Or take a look at a young Indian man named Ghandi, known as the “great-souled one”, as he looked around at the quandary of his Indian people. He made the decision to dedicate his life  to the advancement of his people’s plight turning his back on the riches that could be afforded him if he followed his legal education. He took it a step further and instead of violent protest and hate, decided to carry on the dissent in peaceful actions that today is admired and praised.


But wait a minute, these are grand events that are easily noticeable in its impact on the entire world. What about your world? Did your actions toward the neighborhood grocery store’s young person who carried out your groceries cause a chain of events that could possibly change in a subtle way his mindset for the rest of his life? Many people at our place of employment are craving positive human interaction that they don’t get at home. Everyone around us needs LOVE! Better still, how did we treat even ourselves today that is largely shaping our tomorrow for ourselves? Did we LOVE and care for ourselves in meaningful, positive manner?

Victor Frankel, a Holocaust survivor, changed the world by his deliberate decision to take his horrible treatment and experience while turning it into a positive mental event for him. He then opened it up to the world in his book, “Man’s Search for Meaning” and as they say, the rest is history.

My hope would be that by someone reading this today, it may change their actions slightly or greatly when they are interacting with everything around them and the world is a better place for it.


What “BUTTERFLIES” did you send out today?

Let’s Talk About Loving!

I have previously written about reaching out and loving others but how is that truly possible? What does it begin with and how do we get there?

Do you love the person who stares back at you every morning when you look in the mirror when you have just woken up? Do you ADMIRE, RESPECT, and have a all out APPRECIATION of who you are?

It seems like I hear more than anything from others when talking about themselves:

  1. “I wish I could….”
  2.  “If only I could…”
  3.  “I need to lose weight”, “my nose is too big”, “I am too short – too tall”
  4. “I should (shouldn’t) have…”
  5. “I am just not intelligent enough..”
  6.  “I am not lovable or loved.”

The first place to look for love is from YOURSELF. The old song “looking for love in all the wrong places” has a lot of deeper meanings to it for me and may for you to if you take the time to contemplate it intensely. Searching for love seems to be the “modern” thing going on as we look around us. Dating sites have taken off in the last five years as people more and more are trying to find that wonderful thing called love wanting that human connection with someone. The media and advertising have taught us that we can never be satisfied with our bodies as they are now. They are constantly telling us we need to look like that perfect fitness trainer, constantly feed our bodies medications to improve, and become something we are not. It is amazing to watch the endless infomercials that tell us we aren’t good enough and need to work harder as well as diet more to become something else besides who we are. IT sells, sells, and sells while feeding us into the economic quicksand that drives us deeper and deeper into  financial as well as emotional debt promising us a “better” you.

Why can’t I just be “me” and love that “me”?

I would like to start by looking at what we are as a human body. Those of us who are able to walk have a intricate web of wonderful parts that allow us to be mobile. There are 250,000 sweat glands in a pair of feet, when walking and the foot strikes the ground it forces the toes to carry half your body weight, and the sole of the foot contains more sensory nerve endings than any other part of the body (wonder why your foot is ticklish?). Your eyes contain 2 million working parts, are very quick healers, and are the most active muscle in the body (unless you are Mr. Universe). Each part of the human body contains numerous and wonderful functions that even still baffle science today. Most of us spend our lives looking for the supernatural, the miracles, or some sign there is something “higher” than we are. To me, the most sure sign of a higher power and loving force is the miraculous functions my body performs for me without any conscious input from me every moment of every day. It is as if someone or something has said:

” I am giving your conscious this wonderful vessel that contain inexhaustible complexities that is as wonderful as the galaxies themselves.”

Then we move on to how we treat ourselves and the self-loathing that seems more and more to permeate our lives today. The raising and parenting of small children is a great part of how we can become who we are today. If you take a child from birth and parent that child constantly about their shortcomings/sins , bodily flaws, physically beat them as punishment, and withhold love until their behavior warrants it, what do you think the outcome will be? Yet, it seems that is what many of us do to ourselves all day long. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not here – this moment is ALL that we have and to accept ourselves in that moment totally is what love is truly about. There may be no tomorrow where you can become the perfect person you may wish to be or there is no past – IT IS GONE FOREVER and there is NO NEED to constantly berate ourselves for past mistakes. It is NOW. WE are the perfect person now that exists in this moment with all our flaws, mistakes, and blemishes – we are a beautiful creation with it all, that is what makes us. I have a German Shepherd and as I watch him he just seems to always be enjoying the moment just as he is. If he makes a “mistake” I have never seen him  berate himself or even worry about the color of his coat. He is in the moment with himself.

Is it truly loving yourself to hold resentment or anger over a lifetime? Or lashing out at the next person who comes our way when we are having a rough time? Or emotionally eating junk food until we feel “satisfied”?

There is one person we will spend our entire life with and that is the wonderful “me”. Yet, it is our decision how we will look at ourselves –  wonderful me or the flawed, sinful wretched being we are taught. The great thing about our brains it is scientifically shown it CAN change with the discovery of plasticity with the brain. No matter where we are now with our thinking of ourselves, it CAN be altered. Is it always easy? Absolutely not but it is the most worthy adventure we can ever take on – loving ourselves.

What is it you love to do? What is your body telling you it needs today with your cooperation to function for you optimally? If we love ourselves, each moment of the day the greatest thought we can have is what will I do that is  going to benefit my well-being. Can I say no, is it okay to detach from this situation, or do I need to take a breather and just go out into nature to replenish my soul? Developing true self-love can take some time and effort but it is the most worthwhile investment we will ever endeavor in this life and really doesn’t take any money to cultivate.

The irony of it all is self-love is not someone else telling us we need to be different, act different, or look different but when we truly love ourselves and accept ourselves our we are now, we want to be better to ourselves and excel in our ways to benefit my lifestyle. The true motivation in lifestyle changes begins when we truly love ourselves.

Then and only then can we reach out in true love to our fellow human beings. I know it is a controversy but I believe that we cannot truly love another being in the truest sense until we learn that deep love for ourselves first because we only pass along what we have inside ourselves to others. Then with that love we have truly developed for ourselves can be passed to all those we come into contact with.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”


“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”

John Lennon


You are beautiful and worth it!!!


LOVING SELF=     Respect Ourselves      Admire  Ourselves     Appreciate Ourselves




SUFFERING! What did I do today?


Buddha left the walls of his castle going into the streets after being secluded throughout his upbringing and saw all the tremendous suffering that was going on around the city he had been sheltered from, then spent the rest of his life committed to bringing a end of suffering to the world. Jesus Christ wandered the hillsides and villages witnessing sufferings of devastating proportions which one day allowed him to lay down his life to relieve the sufferings the world seemed to thrust upon all living beings. Mother Teresa dedicated her life all the way to her death to relieving the horrible sufferings she saw in Calcutta as well as founding the Missionaries of Charity servicing the hurting and down-trodden in 133 cities.  Ghandi witnessed the sufferings of his people in the workplace and violations of Civil Rights, then tirelessly spent his life in nonviolent protest to help relieve the suffering of those around him and his countrymen.

There are numerous organizations in the world to relieve suffering:

    1. Action Against Hunger:       http://www.aah-usa.o
    2. CARE:       http://www.careusa.org/
    3. Doctors without Borders           http://www.dwb.org
    4. International Rescue Committee (IRC)           http://www.theirc.org/
    5. Refugees International         http://www.refintl.org

And the list goes on and on.

Then one can turn on the news or read news articles to see the widespread sufferings in this world – Syrian refugee crisis and massacres of masses of people, human slave/sex trafficking, proliferation of nuclear arsenals,  nationalism that denies the solidarity of all humans and responsibility to the world, and wars that kill and maim the innocent while the perpetrators sit in enclosed walls that shield them from the very travesties they order.

ONE thing is UNIVERSAL – SUFFERING, it unites all peoples in a common bond. A young one is born into this world under the stress of the birth and dies under emotional, physical, or psychological stresses. Many religions, psychologist, philosophers, and enlightened individuals have tried to explain the arguments and persuasions for the goodness in suffering. SUFFERING IS NOT GOOD and is not virtuous! Try to explain the goodness of suffering to someone that has just lost a spouse or child, to the starving throngs around the world, someone in the depths of anxiety and depression that can see no way out,  or is being severally abused and see how far you make the argument go.  Sure, people overcome and move forward out of sufferings with forgiveness, perseverance, and courage but suffering itself is not inherently good or virtuous. I personally have dealt with depression/anxiety some in my life and can tell you it is not good but can be a living hell.

I believe that the only real thing that can be the goodness found in suffering is the human’s ability to be a part of the relieving of suffering in others as well as ourselves. “Survival of the fittest” is the enemy of the compassion and has been forced down our throats since the beginning of human existence. I am going to make a statement that I strongly believe to be one of the few Universal Truths  – that all human beings are equal and there is not one anywhere that is better than anyone else in the world. It makes no difference of race, religion, varying opinions, place of birth on the earth, monetary status, or intelligence. One day when all of us return to the earth, it is all dirt in oneness. The  death of a Muslim child in war is as atrocious as the death of a Christian, Russian, Chinese or Hindu child. It is amazing how the human race has placed values on the human race by all types of criteria. Politics and politicians have become the enemy of compassion while elevating the sufferings of others at the expense of their own security.

So what have you done today to step out of the ego and help alleviate the suffering of another. Or if you yourself are suffering, what have you done to be compassionate and loving to yourself  instead of giving yourself a hard time for not performing better or being better? Maybe it is just to question what you believe of others or what real security is, possibly contemplating things you could do to alleviate the sufferings of others. In the end, will it matter what you have,  how prestigious you are, or the great education you achieved? Of all the reading about and witnessing of people who have died, these things didn’t amount to a pile of dung. It was all about relationships and experience. Have you had a compassionate moment today in a relationship or experience? It can be as simple as a smile at someone while shopping, a kind word to one suffering or a stranger, a simple random act of kindness today. It can also mean sitting with those dying in Hospice, providing food to someone on the street in need, volunteering in the countless organizations that relieve suffering (including animal rescue centers), and giving financial resources to causes/organizations that provide comfort.


A great religious text says “Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted”.